Good behavior starts at home for teens

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Rocky Mount leaders pulled together the community’s best resources promptly and admirably in the wake of a basketball court shooting that wounded four young people several weeks ago. The community responded as well, turning out in big numbers for forums targeting youth violence and gangs, in particular.

Most responsible parents and youth leaders already emphasize the more tangible steps that lead kids to become productive citizens. Stay in school. Resist the temptations of alcohol and drugs. Exercise. Enjoy the opportunities for fun and fellowship that are offered by churches, sports teams and other youth organizations.

But as Telegram staff writer Brie Handgraaf reported this week, moderators of a forum at Word Tabernacle Church reached for deeper influences, too.

“I challenge families to get back in the game,” said the Rev. Shelton Daniel of Greater Joy Baptist Church. “Then we can depend on our churches, our schools, our government. It has got to start back with the family.”

And there’s the heavy lifting. Teachers, coaches, ministers and counselors work wonders every day with America’s young people. But if the lessons they offer are undermined by the behavior of parents and siblings at home, the kids they’re trying to reach often will face an uphill battle on the way to becoming responsible adults.

When a child’s home life contributes to his behavioral problems, it’s up to the rest of us to try to fill that gap. That isn’t easy for any of us, no matter how much experience we’ve had with troubled teens.

Rocky Mount leaders are aiming in the right direction. The challenge comes in reaching and correcting the behavior of the people who have the most potential to influence young people – their families.

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A Call For Acton (another one)

Step 1 - Stop having babies with out a husband and relying on others to pay for your poor decisions. Come on C-man... your crowd needs to be shouting from every mountain top and mole hill that it is wrong, stupid and that the overwhelming evidence shows the high probability that poverty, welfare, low education, and crime are in that mother and child's future. Speaking "Truth to Power" my a$$. Just tell the truth!

The babies are already born and that

should is the target. Come on C-man... your crowd needs to be shouting from every mountain top and mole hill that it is wrong, stupid and that the overwhelming evidence shows the high probability that poverty, welfare, low education, and crime are in that mother and child's future. What? And?

Meet, meet, meet been there done that

since the early 90's. Until individuals, churches, organizations, community leaders and others who say they care about what is going on identify a so-called problem child and their parents, nothing is going to change. The problem is most folks want to talk in general but how many are actually reaching out and touching those who really need help. However these folks do not really want to identify a specific child and their parents because they could be held accountable. If a child/parents refuse the help then one must move on to the next child. But the main thing is that while moving on to the next child, those who refuse help will know that there are someone who they can actually go to when they decide that they need to receive help from someone that they can identify. It is easy for those who say they are concerned about the so-called problem children and their parents but really? How many of you have reached out to a specific child/parents? How many of you have identified one child in your community or surrounding area that you know need some guidance? This child could be without a father and maybe not be a problem child but is one step away from becoming a problem child. You see we need to reach out to children of all walks of life. We must treat each child as an individual and not as a group. Until we get to the root cause of a so-called problem child and their parents we can not put an action plan in place. All of these pretty meetings and pretty people talking, talking and talking but what we need is action, action, action. So to continue to meet without real action nothing changes.

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