This is a follow up to my last blog on “Faithful Friends.”… As I reflected on my faithful friends, I had a few additional thoughts I wanted to share.
I have another friend who would be by my side as I was being lowered through the roof. She would be encouraging me and saying that everything was going to be just fine. She would probably be patting my hand or wiping my brow. She would be unaffected by the noise of the crowd. The distractions would not affect her mission. She wouldn’t be concerned about the size of the hole in the roof or if I had on mascara or not. She would have given little thought to what I was wearing. She would say, “You look good in anything.” She would just be there – by my side, maybe not even saying a word. Sometimes that is our most important role … Just to BE! Why is it so hard to just “Be?”
I think about the story of Mary and Martha and how Martha was running around the house working her fingers to the bone preparing the meal, setting the table and cooking while Mary appeared to be doing a whole lot of nothing.
I love Jesus’s response. I believe this gives us a window into his heart and what he holds most dear. In Luke 10:41 He says, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things.” I wonder how many times he has sat on His throne looking down at me and said, “Suzanne, Suzanne, you are worried and upset about many things?” More times than I want to admit.
We have a lot of friends who are “Marthas.” They are the doers. And thank the Lord for the doers. They are wonderful friends to have. In fact, our society could stand a huge dose of doers. We seem to be heavy on the talkers and light on the laborers … No doubt, we need the “Marthas” of the world. If we didn’t’ have them, nothing would ever get done. But we also need friends like “Mary”… Remember Mary? She sat by Jesus’ side and hung on his every word while her sister frantically made preparations. Sometimes we just need people to be there and be attentive. They are not racing around in a million hurries, doing this and doing that. They don’t text and drive and eat a cheeseburger while changing the radio station. They don’t have someone on a call and two more on call waiting. They are focused and connected. They deeply care. You can see it in their eyes. The “Marys” are overlooked at times but their role is vital. They are the face of Jesus to the world around them.
Find a Martha. Find a Mary. They both have a place in your life. Be a Martha. Be a Mary. Be wise enough to know which one is needed when. When the ox is in the ditch, be a Martha. When someone needs a shoulder to cry on, be a Mary. When a meal needs to be cooked, be a Martha. When someone needs to be prayed with, be a Mary. When a friend’s yard needs mowing, be a Martha. When that same friend is so devastated by life they don’t know what they need, be a Mary. When someone needs an advocate, stand firm and be a Martha. When someone needs to vent, be a Mary and sit quietly by their side, hold their hand and listen.
Which one am I? Well, I guess you’ll have to wait for one of my friends to guest blog on that topic.