Teen son brings his mom to her first prom
BY ALLISON KLEIN
Sunday, April 22, 2018
Fatima Faruq did not go to her high school senior prom. She had a new son back then, 18 years ago, and was focused on saving money for what would be her first apartment.
Now, her son, Nassir Al-Faruq, is a high school senior. In recent months, as his own prom neared, he thought about the sacrifice his mother had made by missing out on that high school rite of passage.
And he decided to right the wrong.
“He came to me and said, ‘Would you like to go to the prom with me? I think it would be dope. I think you deserve it,’” Faruq, 36, recalled.
She briefly wondered whether he would follow through when spring rolled around. It turns out, she said, “he was dead serious.” She told him she’d be delighted.
“I was absolutely honored to go to his prom with him,” said Faruq, who split with Nassir’s father when Nassir was 10.
Nassir said he was touched by his mother’s story of giving up her prom for him, and said he wanted to try to make up for it.
“I wanted her to enjoy herself and I wanted her to feel young again,” said Nassir, 18. “I didn’t want her to miss out.”
As they talked more about it, Nassir told her he wanted their outfits to match, and he wanted them to be green, her favorite color.
Faruq went to her cousin, who designs clothes, and the cousin agreed to make matching prom outfits for them.
Another friend agreed to do Faruq’s hair and makeup. A different friend said he’d take photographs.
“It was my first time wearing a wig and makeup like that,” said Faruq, who builds helicopters for the military and wears a baseball cap most days.
Photographer Dionté Wade came to their house in Brookhaven, Pa., and did a photo shoot, and many of the photos quickly made their way around Instagram, even before the prom started.
Mother and son arrived at the Crystal Tea Room in downtown Philadelphia on Friday night, and word got around fast that Nassir’s date was his mother.
Students and teachers from Nassir’s school, Cardinal O’Hara High School, came up and asked them whether it was true. They said Faruq looked so young she could not possibly be his mother.
“They said, ‘Yo, you and your mom look dope,’” Nassir said. “‘Y’all are celebrities.’”
They danced to a few line dance songs and a Drake song.
Then Faruq told her son her feet hurt and she was going to sit down. He made sure she was all right, she said, and then he went and hung out with his friends for a while. Faruq said she was happy to sit back and observe for a while.
“I talked to a couple of teachers who came over,” she said. “I was on my phone posting photos on social media.”
Some teens have been known to be embarrassed about their parents. Not Nassir.
He said he could not have been prouder to escort his mother to the prom.
“My mom is a cool person, she can make you laugh,” Nassir said. “She does crazy faces. In the car when her song comes on — anything from the 90s — she be doing some funny dances.”
Faruq said going to senior prom with Nassir more than made up for missing it when she was in high school.
“It was more exciting than I thought because of how it happened,” she said. “It is so surreal to me. He’s a really, really sweet guy.”