Letter to the Editor: Faithful outshine the secular
Saturday, June 22, 2019
The New York Times reported: “It turns out that the happiest of all wives in America are religious conservatives, followed by their religious progressive counterparts. Seventy-three percent of wives who hold conservative gender values and attend religious services regularly with their husbands have high-quality marriages.”
Marriage can be a beautiful thing or not, depending on how we choose to respond to God and to our spouse. After the wedding ceremony, infatuation and physical satisfaction keep the couple in La-La Land for a while. Later on when the children come along and the couple is tired and irritable, the infatuation fades and they have to learn how to actually love one another in the world of reality.
Focusing on keeping your lifelong friend and companion is a necessity. Just as important is finding joy in the midst of hardships, creating a peaceful atmosphere. Both have to learn how to endure without grumbling, practicing kindness and only doing what is good for the marriage union. Attributes that enhance a marriage are being a person your spouse can depend on, being gentle and a person that practices self-control. These exceptional qualities do not come naturally. These attributes are the fruit of the spirit and must be developed, practiced and nurtured.
Do churchgoers have happier marriages because most likely others, of like faith, encourage them to develop these spiritual qualities in their lives?
Religious people outshine others when it comes to being charitable as well.
A major survey by the Chronicle of Philanthropy confirms that residents of states that lean Republican and are more religious donate more of their money to charity, while more secular regions — and areas that tend to vote Democrat — give less.
I believe personally helping others builds personal relationships, which contribute to our happiness and needs being met. We all need people in our lives, and what better way is there than lending a helping hand?
There are some charity organizations that do good work, but many spend most of the money contributed on administration, travel, etc. Like government, most charity organizations are not good with managing someone else’s money. So I suggest you help others personally.